Thought for the night....

I read this a few minutes ago and it brought tears to my eyes.

Child abuse casts a shadow the length of a lifetime.
--Herbert Ward

If we could just reposition one child's shadow a day this world would be a much different place!

Good night and remember to kiss your kids!!

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Atmosphere "The Last To Say" Music Video Hits MTV!

Atmosphere, a well know rap group, brings a voice to domestic violence by preforming a candid rap about domestic violence called "The Last to Say". MTV has joined the fight by premiering the music video for this song on many of their channels such as MTV2, MTVU and their activist focused channel ACT.
This music video brings the issue of domestic violence out in the open to an age group who often suffer in silence at the hands of a boyfriend or girlfriend in years as early as junior high school. Teen dating violence is on the rise and is most often explained away by the victim as sport related injuries. Finally, a music group has decided enough is enough! This video made me cry when I listened to the words. Each person who stands up to violence, every voice that is heard can make a difference in even just one victims life!

Talking To A Child About Abuse

Children as young as four years old can understand the basic concepts of good touches, bad touches and confusing touches. These young children can also understand the definition of sexual abuse and are not afraid of the words that send a chill up the spines of adults. Use the words "sexual abuse" when talking with your child because if a child is victimized, they need to be able to tell you that they were "sexually abused!" Child protective services social workers will tell you that a child without the language to describe their victimization is a child whose case is weakened in the court system. Remember, you are not putting the responsibility on the child. Instead, you are helping the child to understand the problem and identify safe people who will support them! Many years of experience, teaching thousands of children, have shown that children are not threatened by this information, they embrace it! It is so very evident in the classroom when we teach Good-Touch/Bad-Touch® that children are proud that they are learning how to take care of themselves. Teaching your child about sexual abuse further empowers your child to participate in his/her own body safety! Children need to hear information more than once. Discuss with your child "the problem that some children might have" by introducing the concept of different touches the first day, repeat touching and discuss the five body safety rules (typed in bold below) the second day and review the third day. This way, your child will "own" this information. Repetition allows them to retain what they have learned. A one-time discussion is soon forgotten. Also, repeating your discussions every year will reinforce what they have learned and reintroduces points they may have forgotten. Let's not rule out the possibility that, in the course of your discussion, a child may exclaim: "Hey! That's happened to me!" While a parent can never be fully prepared for such a disclosure, you may want to know how to respond to a child who discloses abuse, before you begin your talk with your child. The outline that follows is a synopsis of key points presented in the highly acclaimed Good-Touch/Bad-Touch body safety education program. This synopsis is offered here to help you discuss this very difficult topic with your children so that they will have the tools they may need to stay safe from sexual abuse. Teach your child that they are "special" and have the right to know everything they can about being safe! Discuss of all the safety rules they have learned and explain that there are some more safety rules to learn. When teaching your child about sexual abuse, talk about 3 different types of touch: good touch, bad touch and sexual abuse touch. "Good touches" are those touches that make us feel happy, safe and loved. Good touches can make us feel warm inside or can make us feel like a smile. Emphasize that most of the touch we get is good touch. Good touches are so important! "Bad touches" are those touches that hurt us; they feel like an ouch. Some examples are kicking, hitting and biting. "Sexual abuse touch" is defined as "forced or tricked touch of private body parts." The key words are forced and tricked. A force is when someone makes you do something you don't want to do or don't understand. A trick is when someone lies to you, fools you, pretends or calls something a game, that really isn't a game, so they can touch your private body parts or have you touch theirs. Explain that sexual abuse is confusing because it doesn't necessarily hurt; the touch can feel good. And that is confusing to children. Use the words "sexual abuse" to eliminate unnecessary confusion. The effort to call sexual abuse by another name (such as inappropriate touch) is counterproductive--leading to more confusion for children. After all, we can be assured that the sexual abuse offender of our children will not call what he/she is doing sexual abuse!!! By giving your child the correct language, you give your child the power! Teach your child that their body is their own and that no one has the right to touch them in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable or in a way that they don't like. Teach your child that they have the right to trust their own feelings and to ask questions when they feel uncomfortable or confused by someone's behavior. Talk about times when they may have had an anxious feeling (forgetting homework, losing something, frightened by a loud noise, etc.). Discuss the importance of paying attention to our feelings in situations when we are feeling uncomfortable. Teach your child that they have the right to say "NO!" to sexual abuse. Teach them that they can say "NO!" to anyone who might want to sexually abuse them; even if the offender is an adult; even if the offender is someone they know. Teach your child that it is very important to tell a trusted adult if someone sexually abuses them or hurts them in any way. Teach your child that they can tell another person if they are not believed. Discuss and identify trusted adults in their life. Teach your child that it is okay to break promises they might make about sexual abuse. Children do not have to keep any promise that makes them feel bad inside. Teach your child that if sexual abuse happens to a child, it is NEVER the child's fault. Older children (4th grade and up) may come up with ways in which it could be the child's fault; explain that sexual abuse is against the law and children are not responsible when someone breaks the law and sexually abuses them. Teach your child that a person who sexually abuses a child can be anyone. Most children, even adults, think that offenders are usually strangers. Children need to know that they have the right to say "NO!" and Tell even when the offender is someone they know, like, love or even live with. (In 90% of cases the offender is someone the child knows!) Discuss with your child that telling about sexual abuse can be very difficult, but that the abuse won't stop until they tell someone. An abused child doesn't start to feel better until they tell someone. Let your child know that it is never too late to tell about sexual abuse. Let your child know that if sexual abuse happens to them, they are still a good person, they are still lovable and that you will always love them no matter what!

Sarah's House Child & Family Advocacy Center

Welcome to Sarah's House blog! We are so excited to share so much exciting news about our programs and upcoming events. In future blogs you will learn who Sarah is, How Sarah's House began and why Sarah's House Child & Family Advocacy Center is so important to not just victims but to everyone. Below you will find information about Sarah's House and contact information if you would like more information about services or if you would like to become a volunteer.

Sarah’s House Child and Family Advocacy Center is dedicated to serving children and families who are victims of sexual and physical abuse through prevention, education, and intervention.

It is our goal to provide numerous, quality services, at one central location; this prevents re-victimization of the individual and their family. We treat each person with courtesy, respect, and compassion. This can help the victim feel comfortable, and can assist with prosecution of the case.

We offer 24/7 Crisis Intervention for all sexual assault cases, child molestation, and child abuse.

We also offer rape crisis intervention and support, domestic violence referrals to shelters, and support groups, and information for victims.

Call for details (928) 757-8103 for more information or e-mail info@sarahshouseaz.org to learn how you can help!.